10 posts from 2008

 

As a famous talk show host said:

You don't have to prove anything to anyone. It's not your problem if they reject you, it's theirs! Only STUCK UP idiots will require you to please them

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I will try to put a stop to all your madness. (keyword is "try")

You have said your piece several times: the same spiteful, mud-slinging, derogatory, egotistical, malicious, blatantly insulting comments. The usual, utterly lacking in CLASS (and substance). The same person sounding like a VENGEFUL brat all the time.

 

We just hope you can trace wayback HOW and WHEN it all started.

Let us be the one to remind you how it all started: you suggested something, we replied politely, we stressed our need for "privacy". To our BIGGEST surprise, we received the nastiest words.  ALL BECAUSE OF this POLITE RESPONSE. It should have ended at that point (Well you should have ended it there. But as you know it several spiteful, purely "parinig" statements from you followed thereafter. We feel so special thank you, knowing we are worth your hardworking time). 

We honestly regret "responding politely". Little did we know that you cannot handle a polite response that something so really PETTY will drive you berserk, that something so trivial which we said "in-passing" will be taken in a NEGATIVE way and will drive someone in parinig-spree days/months/years thereafter.

It struck us really strange how you acted hostile towards us all because of this little thingie. 

The truth is, you are so preoccupied with being overlooked that you're totally oblivious to the pettiness of the issue: nanosize issue that you have magnified and blown gazillion times out of proportion.

How you acted was very very far-out and totally unexpected. We cannot think of a valid reason... only selfish and envious people with a glass full to the brim will apparently envy another person's half-full glass. If you have a glass full up to the brim, why will you get upset if another person is striving all his/her best to make the most of his/her half-full glass. It is sheer envy. Sheer selfishness. This is the only reason we can think of. Nothing else.

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Please remember that we only snap back when bitten more than twice.

Your hobby is parinig. You pitted yourself against someone who is even not in the same line of thinking as you are (your psycho-cum-criminal mind, quoting what you said "die a slow painful death" or something like "good to be left for dead"). In case you haven't realized it yet, we are not in the same "criminal/corrupt" level.

You can boast for all we care, you can self-grandize for all its worth, you can grandstand and take the center stage for all you want: we honestly couldn't care less. Please leave us alone! 

Our conscience is clean, we did you no harm. Not even once. We know how you have had sleepless nights and uncomfortable feeling ever since you started this.

 Your most recent "PIECE" vindicated us. It was US you were referring to ALL along. No doubt about that. Wayback, we always leave some room for "doubt".. because we cannot "accuse" anyone just like that. You of all people.

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Please, you can deny all you want and you can pretend and cheat yourself all you want by your narcissistic statements.  I was NEVER like you: I never pretended anything. In case you have this 3-second goldfish memory, I said "trying to be helpful in the biz" (trying is the keyword dear). NEVER self grandizing. NEVER exaggerating. NEVER saying i-am-a-the-most-hardworking-gal-on-the-face-of-the-planet and all that workabullshit (as what we are ho-humly accustomed as your litany). They're just a few among those VERY-YOU narcissistic statements). What happened? My simplest statements drove you nuts again... tsk tsk.

Anyways, with my simplest words (which are simply my delayed response from your parinig spree days), you retorted with the BIGGEST possible insults that can spew out of your foul mouth. Never being careful with words. VERY CONTRONTATIONAL, very provocative. There is a total loss in objective observability, you and the proverbial red mist. You and your uncontrollable temper.   

You're trying to show how MIGHTY you are. Geewhiz, it only showed how you have no breeding, that you are very irrational, pointless and immature. 

Honestly, i wasn't hurt one bit. Like what i said, no amount of hurtful words coming from you can affect me anymore. (besides, we are accustomed to your "attitude" already. We know you so well. Nothing new really. Henry would just brush your psychotic delusional statemnets aside by saying "We have beautiful kids, we have a happy family. It doesn't matter to us how half-full may be our glass of water.  We don't even complain. We cannot be happier.. because we make the most out of it, we exert every effort that we can possibly do! Maybe s/he is the one who is not happy with  his/her own family... s/he is not satisfied with what s/he has that's why she kept on finding faults in other people. Ang taong ganyan di na dapat pinapansin! Don't waste your energy on her/him, s/he's not even worth it) 

Obviously, You have this strange attitude: "I-am-better-and-holier-than-thou". We find it funny everytime we hear you praise yourself (well nothing new!). you are so self-absorbed to make yourself look good.. well, it's ok... but the sad thing is, you NEVER make yourself look good without making other people look ugly by citing and making them the butt of your jokes. Don't you think there must be some other way?

Believe me, our tummy hurts laughing everytime you go on and on about yourself. Why so self-grandizing? What were you thinking!?

I only respond based on your "accusations" and parinig. I am NOT the type who will start some sort of hullabaloo. (You, going on and about me? You, going on parinig spree. You making me the butt of your "jokes". Well.. yeah pa-"innocently")

Moreso, i am not the type to waste my time exerting great efforts in order make myself  look good to other people. Furthermore, I do not make myself look good by making other people look UGLY. I blog because i want to. I do not blog for the purpose of parinig. I do not blog for the purpose of "praising" myself....

sadly, for some reason, with my blogs, you let yourself to be conquered by the green-eyed monster.

 

We CHALLENGE you to recall in the deep recesses of your mind if we EVER said similar foul, blatantly disrespectful, below-the-belt statements. You have said a too many that we don't think it can be equated with whatever we have said, if in case you may recall any.

Apparently you have issues, you are in great denial. We have tried as much as we can to get through you, by infusing some sense of humor and at the same time articulating ourselves well. We tried to express ourselves assertively in non-confrontational manner (because apparently, i am your favorite blog topic. And you stalk my blog to fish and react as negatively as possible). On top it all we are careful that not a single hurtful word was ever said (nothing below the belt, nothing very personal, no insulting words were even directly uttered) despite the continuous parinig. We responded vaguely, we responnded in very generalized way. Hoping we can somehow make the message come across to you ("tablan sana" as henry would assure me). We infused humor, we made the subject as light as it can be.

With all the things that you have done and said, all we can say is that you have no reservations, you are SIMPLY VENGEFUL.

dear, it only made you look more stupid and irrational at that. Go and ask people around you. Go and show them our "correspondence"...

What's with slapping on our faces about the "life-changing issues"? I don't know, karma i guess have hit you. I guess you got a taste of your life-changing experience/s too. I know i shouldn't be mentioning it, we sincerely emphatized when you had your share of that life-changing incident/s as well . I know, we all have our down points in our lives. We are saying this for you to understand that another person's life-changing experince shouldn't be "used against him/her". Because at one point in our lives, each of us encounter them. 

We remember vividly how you even "mocked" us about one of life-changing experiences we have experienced. From your context, you referred to the "life-changing experience" we have encountered  and seemingly implied that we shouldn't "fight back" anymore to lfe's challenges and adversities and that we should remain miserable and face lying down on the ground all the time. Sorry dear, it doesn't mean that we should always be "down".. it doesn't mean that YOU can always step on our toes. (you said that because i was standing up for myself and you never though i will do that, because you know i have been passive all this time!)

We NEVER received an apology from you (what should we expect?) . Despite all that, with all sincerity, we have tried to reach out, we have exerted efforts which we now think you are undeserving of. Maybe on a subconscious/self-conscious level, you feel that you do not deserve patching things up with us with all the nasty things still teeming your mind. 

Let me tell you this, people like you make me a better person. People like you make me strive more. I am not here to brag what i have so far achieved having "no real work." 

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We are convinced that true colors always surface.

You will be "okay" on certain occasions, yet over and over, you you are compelled to say your piece how you typically execute it: foul, condescending, arrogant, vengeful. Seemingly VERY okay to burn the bridge. One step forward of "mending" your shortcomings,  after some time three steps backward with spews of insult uttered against us. You and the green-eyed monster. You being your NATURAL bratilda self all the time. 

You have inflicted a wound wayback and healing actually takes sometime (Things you have done are really hard to forget just like that. But we have tried to leave everything behind us). But what you do, even before the wound can heal, you scrape off the surface and refreshen the wound....

How can you patch anything up when you continuously write spiteful remarks on pics, blogs and comments? (when we have kept our quiet all these months/ or years!). Again and again, the same arrogant, IMMATURE, swollen with pride person without an inch of humility in his/her body. For the longest time, in fact,  I've been looking forward to  genuinely ugly scars rather than fresh wounds....

I know it will seem like bragging but i have to ask you: If you don't think that earning  (i say earning, not grossing, not on peak months at that) ****** is NOTHING, then can you please let us know whatever that definition you are referring to? Even a person cleaning shoes is doing "work", say, even if he's earning php 50 per shoe-shine and gets to shine only 1 pair of shoes a day. You can say whatever you want, I am earning my keep and that's a fact. Ironically, the more people like you try to put us down, the more blessings come pouring down on us. I, myself is amazed with all blessings coming our way.. my own biz in particular..you have no idea whatever blessings i was referring to, it's not even the press/tv features). This is what i call good karma. When a bad vibe is trying to go our way, it gets usually neutralized by GOOD opportunites ;)

I have never regretted "trying to make myself useful" in the family biz and not going workabullshit. Maybe because admittedly, my personality doesn't lean on the mahadera side. If i have my in-laws around in the shop, i think it is just polite to take the backseat. Do you even know why they are here? It started when my son was diagnosed as a SPECIAL child. They are purposely giving me leeway to spend more time with my SPECIAL child. We have been out-of-the-country mostly on business-purposes (medical, doctor consultations, therapies, and never-ending search to help our son.. ). We do not even care at all how often you go out for leisure trips, how you leave work for birthday parties and get-togethers. We are not like you who is mindful of other people's business!). Up to this point apparently you have NO IDEA what we have gone through and still going through each day, and what future awaits our son. So you DO NOT tell us what we should do. So you should not judge us how we should run our lives! As if we are asking for your ASSISTANCE (in any form). As if we are doing you any DAMAGE. Furthermore, we didn't even ask other people for HELP (if that really bothered you how we supposedly forced other people in this set-up.)

 I know you will never believe this, but lots of times my husband and i argued about in the past already, how i wanted to "help"...how  i've been wanting to take the front seats with him but it's just not feasible at the moment and the past years. You cannot have two office accountants taking separate nor same-time shifts with 100% recording accuracy.  Some records gets repeated, some records gets overlooked because of assumption that the other one has done it already. And it is further harder if you are the cashier, doing accounting/ record keeping, preparing cheques, bank notes, checking items for pickup, PR'ing your son's therapist/teacher all at the same time. Consider yourself blessed, you have a personal assistant with you the whole time (and not making work her ass off for you right?), you get to do stuff at your own pace, not being confused with paperworks at all.. and you do the auditing yourself! Multitasking for you is going  online and office paperwork (if at all you go online at work rather than going online at home instead of SUPPOSEDLY multi-tasking and workabullshitting in the office *hahaha*). Mine is officework, cashiering and "henrywork", jethrowork when inlaws are not around. I do not have a personal assistant. AT least in my case, i am an open book.. unlike someone pretending and going on great lengths trying so hard to elucidate an image of being workabullshit and multi-tasker (YEAH RIGHT! ). Again, i was never like you.. i never pretended anything.

 I know, it is very pointless to explain myself to someone with a close mind (and i shouldn't be explaining myself to start with!).

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Let us refreshen you a bit... wayback,  when you found out about our "life-changing" experience, we can never forget what u said "di ko alam kung pano ko tatanggapin yan" when in fact when a total starnger we met at the airport, whom we apologized to with a short post-it note because our son was starting to become kind of restless during the flight, and we were worried he could be causing them some discomfort, we were even given the most touching note how they admire parents like us who lovingly look after our kid, making him behave every possible way we can. How you reacted wasn't honestly the reaction we  were expecting from you.I do not know exactly what we were supposed to hear from you but definitnitely not di ko alam kung pano ko tatanggapin yan.....  what you said has somehow left lasting impression on us. Little did we know that what you have said is genuinely true  

Even before you concocted all these "hullabaloo", I have tried my best to reach-out. Sadly, we even remember  how you turned around and even interpret my efforts and pure intentions to reach out as  feeling close  and me being deadma on certain occasions (sorry, maybe i do not know how to treat a PRIMA DONNA right. Maybe kiss your feet whenever i  see you? or do the best kowtow?) With your statements, it is evident how you have this purely negative vibes on us..

Admittedly and if you have read testimonies from people who genuinely know me, i am shy by nature.  Expectedly, in person i tend to be passive, shy and quiet.. but letting you step on me several times finally taught me how to fight back, to stand up for myself and show you that you cannot push around your weight just like that. If you only knew some "real stories"  (involving you of course! and we don't think you know these real stories) baka mahiya ka sa mga pinaggagawa mo (or sana tablan ka when the times comes you found out about these "real stories"). 

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Sorry if i have to reiterate this, because apparently your actions tell us it's either you do not have an inch of consideration or you are just utterly insensitive (we just hope that you are the latter):

If you have a special child, it is always advised (if the couple can afford it) that one of the parents should look after the child FULL TIME on top of having a yaya around. So if it already seems like i am FULL time with the kids or i stay at home these days during my third trimester lying on the bed the whole day, what do you care? And what do you know about LOW-LYING PLACENTA during pregnancy and 3-4 episodes of blood spotting? do u even have a uterus? (haha, see? i can still joke around!) We didn't even ask people to work their butts off for us (why are you sounding very affected? wow, is that envy we are seeing again?) Why don't you come right up to me or Henry and talk us out of it?  Suggest a better set-up?  maybe you will be doing us a BIG favor then, maybe we need to be enlightened?  Or maybe, what you've been trying you say is like, a plain housewife who stays at home to look after her kids while letting her poor husband or other people "work for them"  has the most demeaning/condescending situation of all time....tsk tsk tsk.

Please.

We do not mind your business. SO leave us alone! 

(again, i know it's useless explaining to someone who is closed-minded. I am neither banking on my son's disability. I am simply stressing how people like you can be inconsiderate, irrational and utterly ruthless).

FYI, i was advised for a bedrest, but i do NOT do that, because i know i can still make myself useful without exerting physical efforts (oh, i collaborate with a chemist.. do you even know that i can make liptints, mineral eyeshadows, powder and blush formulation, lotion, soap, creams already?? Thus, my own line will be undergoing a total overhaul soon as a local mineral makeup shop. FYI  i am the brainchild behind several successful shops which i supply most, if not ALL of the products... apparently you simply have no idea how i have become useful despite being "bedridden"...(well you simply have no idea what i actually do... because i usually do not go bragging about them). .

We know your "dirts" (you have no idea how much we know!). Sorry if you went on GREAT LENGTHS (at the expense of other people) in order to make yourself look good.. but really, you are not a model-person as you are claiming to be. Don't worry we didn't go digging those dirts, we just happened to be presented with them (from other people's statements and some discoveries you weren't even aware of). We neither care about those dirts.. not until you started treating us with some disrespect. As if you are without "sin", a model-person at that.

 And speaking of dirts, i'm sure you know this already...  this is the BIGGEST mess you ever thrown yourself into.    

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"Let the person among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her."  

No matter how you have provoked us in the past, we were careful not to blatantly disrespect and hurt your feelings. We never said anything way below the belt.  Because we NEVER wanted to BURN the bridge. 

BUT

We have learned our lesson...........

Rest assured, we will never stoop down (again) to your level.

Rest assured, what you have said to us years ago and the "subtle-pa-innocent" spiteful remarks you uttered months/years thereafter will be never forgotten. As much as we have tried so hard to mend the broken relationship, to leave everything behind us,  by the way you have been acting, this time, maybe we can now FINALLY say that things will never be the same again. Because YOU decided to make it stay that way. Burn the bridge as you wish.... 

And please, do not deny the fact that you are still (indirectly) seeking husband's help. We know you are not blind to see that, you just refuse to accept the truth. It just strikes him how superficial hypocritical buffon of a person you are to have the gal to ask (someone) for husband's help and at the same time stab her wife, and him in the process, over and over again.

verbatim as per Henry "bakit ganyan yan, ang bait naman parents nya, mga kapatid nya ok naman. (i must agree! i honestly do not have uneasiness with your parents at all! We know they are not like you. Not to mention that you are lucky to have a very good better-half. How can i feel any uneasiness with them when i know deep in my heart that i honestly did you no harm?)

 

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Rest assured, you will never be called ingarata and we will never wish you morbid thoughts (something only hard-core criminals are usually wished by emotional victims)...

Rest assured, we will never wish you to encounter ANY "life-changing" experiences  further.. nothing similar to what we have encountered because maybe, you are right "baka di mo kayanin". 

Rest assured, we will never wish you to have a special child, to be misdiagnosed by one of the best hospitals in the country with a rare disease, for him to get kidnapped,  to have a dad who had untimely death, to have a pregnancy with three to four spotting episodes due to low-lying placenta...  ONLY to understand what we have gone through, in order for you to understand the reason for the "work" and family set up.... How i was making other people work their butts off for me.... (that's very-you being judgmental, closed-minded and "mighty")

But i will assure you that despite all that, in the event *knock on wood* that any life-changing incident/s will happen to you or any of your loved-ones...  you will have people around you (that's us!) who will genuinely empathize, understand your situation and will never turn around and say any "vengeful" words nor spew out negative words.

Rest assured, this will be our LAST message/blog for you.

We are never stooping down again to your level.

 

 

 

 

You are a hopeless case.

 

 

 

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But the narcissists would say, 'It's totally the other person's fault.' They're completely willing to step on someone."

Keith Campbell quotes

 

Henry and I lately have become Dyosa super avid watchers (He likes imitating Sam's pilipit na tagalog "mehel kita joe-sephine). But mind you, he knows the twists and turns of the story! 

Anyways, without fail, we spend quality time each night with the two bubwits. We babysit them by letting them watch youtube stuff. (Cheenee can operate Henry's laptop this early on already!)

Below are a few of the kiddos walang kamatayang youtube vids. They watch it religiously at night. Every. single. night.

If you happen to surf on Henry's youtube account, you will see that his marked faves are either guns or children's vids. hehehe. How bout my youtube? I recently resurrected visiting youtube to see whatever there is to see..  the ins in makeup style,  personal care stuff, some DIYs and what-nots..

 

I'm leaving you with super cute vids which adults alike can  enjoy watching

 

 

 

 

 

 

"Did you hear what he just said?" Many parents see every word their child utters or every squiggle he draws as evidence of his being gifted. Though most children aren't identified as gifted until they begin formal school, some show signs of being gifted at a very early age.

Gifted child Ben Hellerstein of Larchmont, N.Y., for instance, was actually reading nonfiction books and memorizing facts by the age of 4. His mother wishes she had realized that he was academically advanced at that time. "If I had," she says wistfully, "he could have gotten the help he needed in school earlier than he did, and his first year of school wouldn't have been so unhappy."

Signs of giftedness in a preschooler

Your 2- to 4-year-old may be gifted if he:

•  Has a specific talent, such as artistic ability or an unusual facility for numbers. For example, children who draw unusually realistic pictures or who can manipulate numbers in their head may be gifted.

(check!)
Cheenee can already do math. Can subract small numbers. (geez!)

who taught her that?!

•  Reaches developmental milestones well ahead of peers.

(check!)

SHe was about 19 months when she started doing a "roll call". She memorized easily 19 people in the shop. Any employee introduced to her once, the next day she calls her/him already by name without prompts.

Even distant relatives whom she saw once, she can recall even without prompts nor any pictures.

•  Has advanced language development, such as an extensive vocabulary or the ability to speak in sentences much earlier than other children his age.

(check!)

She started talking (as in talking in clear words) around 12 months. She was easily able to string words into sentences thereafter. At 23 months, she can ask in sentences by stringing meaninghful words together.

•  Is relentlessly curious and never seems to stop asking questions.

(check!)

One time to persuade her to sleep after waking up in the middle of the night because she was coughing and all, she started looking for kuya (Jethro).

I told her "Kuya is sleeping already". Then she started asking me one-by-one each familiar person she can recall.. well, around 30 people only to verify if they're sleeping already as well..

•  Is unusually active, though not hyperactive. While hyperactive children often have a short attention span, gifted children can concentrate on one task for long periods of time and are passionate about their interests.

(check!) as related to us by her pre-school teacher ;)

•  Has a vivid imagination. Gifted children often create a vast and intricate network of imaginary friends with whom they become very involved.

(hmmmz. is this good or bad? *scratches head*)

•  Is able to memorize facts easily and can recall arcane information that he learns from television shows, movies, or books.

(check!)

If you read to her any interesting story, she can recall the story by heart even after several days even if it was read to her just once.

Other signs of giftedness may be a little harder to discern. By age 3 or 4, for example, some gifted children begin to realize that they are "different" from their peers. This can make them feel isolated and withdrawn; it may also make them likely targets for bullying.

Cheenee can never be bullied. You be the judge.

wait till you see her. A born leader. Even older kids follow her! Cheenee is kuya's protector ;)

They may begin to experience intense frustration because they can think more rapidly than they can express themselves, verbally or physically. If your child appears unusually angry or frustrated, you may want to consult a mental health professional.

Testing your preschooler for giftedness

Though you may want to know if your preschooler is gifted, most children don't need to be tested for giftedness before entering elementary school. However, consultations with a mental health professional may be appropriate if your preschooler appears to be unusually bored in school or shows any signs of emotional or social problems.

If your child is enrolled in preschool, speak to the teacher or school director to find out if the school is affiliated with any mental health professionals who specialize in working with gifted children. If your child is not in school or the school isn't being receptive to your concerns, ask your pediatrician to refer you to a child psychologist who conducts tests for giftedness. Keep in mind that that although private testing is often expensive (testing and follow-up consultation can run as high as $1,000), your insurance plan may cover the cost.

Children as young as 3 can be given IQ and ability tests, but experts believe that IQ test results obtained before the age of 5 are unstable — that is, if a child is retested, his scores can fluctuate significantly until this age. Years ago, children whose IQ scores were over 130 were considered gifted (the range for average intelligence is 85 to 115); today, however, IQ is one factor among many that need to be evaluated before a child is identified as gifted. Often parents and teachers will be asked to write their impressions of a child, and these subjective measures are considered along with test data.

 

Honestly? i wouldn't wish her to be gifted. Maybe to be labeled just an extremely bright child is more than enough :)

 There's just a lot of pressure on the child who is gifted. Although even parents do not put pressure on them, they feel pressured all the time to excel..

 

When giftedness is hard to diagnose

 

You might be surprised to learn that a child can be both gifted and learning disabled. In most cases, the disability is recognized while giftedness goes undetected. Giftedness in children from ethnic minorities and disadvantaged backgrounds, and in those for whom English is a second language, is often overlooked as well. If your child falls into any of these categories, it's best to find a psychologist who is sensitive to these issues. It is also important to ask your child's teacher to observe him and look for talents that conventional tests cannot detect.

To find other resources for parents of gifted children, visit NAGC's Web site.

Take action in things you can change.

Be at peace in things you have no control over.

Above all, trust GOD that is in control.

I am 8 weeks pregnant ;)

Finding two lines on the pregnancy home test kit came as a really pleasant surprise to us. This is honestly somewaht an unexpected one. Henry and I were planning to have another baby around late of this year. I guess this baby couldn't wait a little later. Just too eager to play with Kuya Jethro and Ate Cheenee....

Henry being the proud father that he's always been, never mentions to anyone that my pregnancy is kind of unplanned. What's the big deal, he told me, you will get pregnant anyways before the year ends.. napaaga lang :P

From my medical history, I was bedrested for the first trimester when i was pregnant with our two kids. This time, I was feeling better than my first two pregnancies and i thought baby doesn't want to give mommy a hard time. Inspite seeing a positive pregnancy test, i carried out my normal routine everyday. Bed-resting or any form of slowing down can make me fat this early on in pregnancy (hehe, actually i think i gained weight already! hala!).  Normal activity should be carried out, no bedresting this time. Well I thought i knew better...

 

Last Sunday, i was (alone) doing the groceries. We only had one yaya in tow.  Cheenee dozed off in the car on the way to the grocery, so i left my husband, yaya, kids in the car  and let Cheenee take a nap. It has been a long day for her, we came from Serendra for a family photoshoot. While shopping, I bought a super BIG box of diapers about 5kg or so plus about 9kg worth of groceries. I  managed around with a heavy push cart to begin with, all-in-all i was pushing around 20kg worth of groceries (plus the cart-resistance). I wasn't feeling tired that time. I was just thinking of getting the groceries done, I was too happy to know that I have never felt better as compared with my previous pregnancies.  I was even thinking of getting this vegetarian calzone for Henry afterwards, i really had a lot of energy to spare! (S and R is really a great place to do your grocery shopping).

We went home and i immediately laid down. I couldn't manage to get up afterwards. I asked Henry to give me a lower back massage concentrating on my pelvis. It was  very very soothing for me for I was cramping a bit and all. I didn't know i slowly slipped to dreamland around 6pm. I was sleeping so soundly that i was not even bothered at all how rambunctious Cheenee was while watching Barney, the usual, jumping, hopping.... the works:  full acrobatic skills at it's finest (her stage, our bed).

I woke up around 9pm and went to the toilet. That's how i found out i "spotted" that day.

It was really scary for me because i never had any spotting with my 2 pregnancies before. Yes, i was advised to take bedrests with my past two pregnancies (even with no spotting incident at all. Just plain cramping), because my body was telling me i should take it easy. But this pregnancy, maybe i was being proud, or maybe i was psyching myself that since this is my third, i should have any easier pregnancy than my first two. Little did i know, it doesn't make a difference at all. I simply chose not to listen to what my body was telling me.

Just a couple of weeks ago, i was talking to a Chem Engr friend (Henry's friend). This girl, whom Avon Phils was trying to "pirate", luring her nonstop to work in their company, we were discussing certain formulations. I was comparing notes regarding certain products. I may be pregnant but it didnt stop me from doing this extra-curricular activity. Now that i have been advised to bedrest, i still sneak out doing stuffs in the laboratory *grins* (which i have been doing for almost a year now). I rest, i lie down when i need to. I just make it a point not to be caught by henry doing "extra-curricular" activities other than bed-resting myself to death ;P Well you know, he caught me one time, he frowned at me at gave me the look, as expected,  cold treatment the whole day.

I really sincerely admire gals who weren't bound on the bed even at one point during their pregnancy. How they can carry on with their normal routine and even do heavy, manual labor. My mom's helper who has been with her for 18 years  even carried buckets of water, pushed 1 sack or rice, while pregnant!

Contrastingly, it's very narrow-minded for some people to throw in other mom-to-be's faces how they will explicitly brag how they have been working really hard during their pregnancy (in the context of making 'parinig") when their pregnant and bedrested mom counterparts are just spending the day at home and resting as if these moms CHOSE to be bedrested (to you: what's this i heard, how hard-working you are, that while at work you go online to surf between 1pm to 4pm? you are hard-working indeed). I know my worth and no amount of hurtful words can affect me. If you don't understand how it is to be pregnant and how it is to be a mom, I should be sorry for you then. For me, my family will always come first. My kid's health will always be my top priority. I am passive in many many ways but when it comes to my kids and family, I am a lioness.

I am still running a part time business earning a decent living a month, while still trying to be useful in the family biz, our main bread-and-butter. What started as a hobby and sideline job reaped good rewards for me. What's with two TV stations for my product feature (one i turned down recently), one magazine feature (haven't posted the pic), and newspaper feature (interviews soon). 

We have a GREAT surprises in a few months (details i cannot divulge yet). I am happy with what i have, I am comfortable in my own skin. Live with it.

If everything that I am now makes you feel insecure and uneasy, i know it's not my problem anymore.

 

 

 

Judith Hudson, developmental psychologist

Most children begin recognizing some letters between the ages of 2 and 3 and can identify most letters between 4 and 5. This means that you can start teaching your child the alphabet when he's around 2 — but don't expect full mastery for some time. What's more, toddlers learn differently from older children, so don't pull out the flashcards and audiotapes just yet. Instead, rely on visual aids such as colorful alphabet picture books — your child will have a great time pointing out the letters he knows, as well as colors, shapes, animals, and other objects in the book.

 

Cheenee is such a genius. She has mastered (well almost) the alphabet at 1 year 9 months! Can name shapes, sing several songs, speak in clear five-word (familiar) sentences, her vocabulary is simply amazing! (no, i cannot honestly credit the Doman method. This child is simply an intellectual-in-the-making!) My mom, my in-laws are dumb-founded with Cheenee's various gifts. Her intellectual level is even BEYOND the advanced skills of 30-month-old  children !!!

 We cannot be thankful enough for this blessing. We are simply proud parents of Cheenee and our angel Jethro.

 

No change of circumstances can repair a defect of character.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson, writer

We all know people who just like to complain. It seems that no matter how good they have it, they're always spreading negative energy. Even the best, most painstaking listener can have trouble with someone who finds fault with everything around them.

You can shine even in the worst situations if your character is strong. If you're starting to see the "dark side" too often and find yourself blaming your circumstances on other people, take another look. If you think a change of scenery will solve all your problems, think again. Change can be good. Moving on to new things can be an exciting chance to stretch yourself and break a rut. But it's important to start with yourself when you're finding things to improve. No matter where you live, work or play, the only constant is you. You can't escape yourself. Change on the outside will have no effect on your happiness or fulfillment unless you change on the inside too.

Healthy Reflections

     Itchy cuts off Scratchy's head with a guillotine.  Scratchy's head rolls to a stop (the expression on Scratchy's face here is priceless) and Itchy stuffs a bomb into his mouth.  After the explosion, all that's left is a cat skull.

 

I must admit  i find watching " The Itchy and Scratchy Show" of the Simpsons wayback kind of amusing: there was the gore factor.. the blood, the violence, the exploding heads, the popping-out eyes. It is actually reminiscent of Tom and Jerry. I love it in the sense that it is the only show that can actually make my jaw drop in amazement. kakaiba. In the same way that no matter how i hate Jack Black flicks, i can't help but to watch his movies... the humor, kakaiba

I  saw the video below from another blog..

Here comes Gali the Alligator
He's a puppet decimator
Little birdies chewed to death
You can smell blood on his breath

Cuddly bunnies live in fear
And he'll pull off their fluffy ears
Better stay off of his path
You want to escape his wrath

 

 I 'm not sure since when did i become dry and humorless. But i find this video really disturbing...not an amusing spoof after all. SO is there really a difference between  "itchy and scratchy" and "Galli the alligator?" I don't find iitchy and scratchy gross much, simply because it is cartoon. But when you watch a children's show with the characters squirting "fresh" blood and literally the whole show is splattered with red blood, it's an entirely a different thing.

Or maybe it's just me. I am not amused. I don't find this Galli entertaining at all. Maybe i was just having a bad (hair) day. Or maybe because I am raising two small kids already and i fear that if they get to see a video like this, i'm afraid  that they might not be able discriminate what's right from wrong.. the violence alone can affect their thinking "it's ok to hammer your playmates little fingers, sweetie" could be the message coming across to Cheenee "you can whack the head of your classmate anytime, kuya" Jethro could be imagining that i could be saying already. Simply put, i don't think they're ready yet to "get" the humor (or the lack thereof) this video wants to get across. Afterall, i think vidoes like this were made to amuse adults like us.

 

Apparently, you can find everything on youtube these days: from  ASAP clips to UP LIVE A.I.D.S show, from  Koreanovelas to Bilibid's convicts dancing to the tune of "Thriller" (wow, surely the best thrilla in Manila).  I can't think of anything anymore that you can't watch on youtube! Even kid violence at its finest :(

 

i will leave you with The Best of Itchy and Scratchy..  dont let your kids watch it!