2 posts from December 2008

 

As a famous talk show host said:

You don't have to prove anything to anyone. It's not your problem if they reject you, it's theirs! Only STUCK UP idiots will require you to please them

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I will try to put a stop to all your madness. (keyword is "try")

You have said your piece several times: the same spiteful, mud-slinging, derogatory, egotistical, malicious, blatantly insulting comments. The usual, utterly lacking in CLASS (and substance). The same person sounding like a VENGEFUL brat all the time.

 

We just hope you can trace wayback HOW and WHEN it all started.

Let us be the one to remind you how it all started: you suggested something, we replied politely, we stressed our need for "privacy". To our BIGGEST surprise, we received the nastiest words.  ALL BECAUSE OF this POLITE RESPONSE. It should have ended at that point (Well you should have ended it there. But as you know it several spiteful, purely "parinig" statements from you followed thereafter. We feel so special thank you, knowing we are worth your hardworking time). 

We honestly regret "responding politely". Little did we know that you cannot handle a polite response that something so really PETTY will drive you berserk, that something so trivial which we said "in-passing" will be taken in a NEGATIVE way and will drive someone in parinig-spree days/months/years thereafter.

It struck us really strange how you acted hostile towards us all because of this little thingie. 

The truth is, you are so preoccupied with being overlooked that you're totally oblivious to the pettiness of the issue: nanosize issue that you have magnified and blown gazillion times out of proportion.

How you acted was very very far-out and totally unexpected. We cannot think of a valid reason... only selfish and envious people with a glass full to the brim will apparently envy another person's half-full glass. If you have a glass full up to the brim, why will you get upset if another person is striving all his/her best to make the most of his/her half-full glass. It is sheer envy. Sheer selfishness. This is the only reason we can think of. Nothing else.

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Please remember that we only snap back when bitten more than twice.

Your hobby is parinig. You pitted yourself against someone who is even not in the same line of thinking as you are (your psycho-cum-criminal mind, quoting what you said "die a slow painful death" or something like "good to be left for dead"). In case you haven't realized it yet, we are not in the same "criminal/corrupt" level.

You can boast for all we care, you can self-grandize for all its worth, you can grandstand and take the center stage for all you want: we honestly couldn't care less. Please leave us alone! 

Our conscience is clean, we did you no harm. Not even once. We know how you have had sleepless nights and uncomfortable feeling ever since you started this.

 Your most recent "PIECE" vindicated us. It was US you were referring to ALL along. No doubt about that. Wayback, we always leave some room for "doubt".. because we cannot "accuse" anyone just like that. You of all people.

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Please, you can deny all you want and you can pretend and cheat yourself all you want by your narcissistic statements.  I was NEVER like you: I never pretended anything. In case you have this 3-second goldfish memory, I said "trying to be helpful in the biz" (trying is the keyword dear). NEVER self grandizing. NEVER exaggerating. NEVER saying i-am-a-the-most-hardworking-gal-on-the-face-of-the-planet and all that workabullshit (as what we are ho-humly accustomed as your litany). They're just a few among those VERY-YOU narcissistic statements). What happened? My simplest statements drove you nuts again... tsk tsk.

Anyways, with my simplest words (which are simply my delayed response from your parinig spree days), you retorted with the BIGGEST possible insults that can spew out of your foul mouth. Never being careful with words. VERY CONTRONTATIONAL, very provocative. There is a total loss in objective observability, you and the proverbial red mist. You and your uncontrollable temper.   

You're trying to show how MIGHTY you are. Geewhiz, it only showed how you have no breeding, that you are very irrational, pointless and immature. 

Honestly, i wasn't hurt one bit. Like what i said, no amount of hurtful words coming from you can affect me anymore. (besides, we are accustomed to your "attitude" already. We know you so well. Nothing new really. Henry would just brush your psychotic delusional statemnets aside by saying "We have beautiful kids, we have a happy family. It doesn't matter to us how half-full may be our glass of water.  We don't even complain. We cannot be happier.. because we make the most out of it, we exert every effort that we can possibly do! Maybe s/he is the one who is not happy with  his/her own family... s/he is not satisfied with what s/he has that's why she kept on finding faults in other people. Ang taong ganyan di na dapat pinapansin! Don't waste your energy on her/him, s/he's not even worth it) 

Obviously, You have this strange attitude: "I-am-better-and-holier-than-thou". We find it funny everytime we hear you praise yourself (well nothing new!). you are so self-absorbed to make yourself look good.. well, it's ok... but the sad thing is, you NEVER make yourself look good without making other people look ugly by citing and making them the butt of your jokes. Don't you think there must be some other way?

Believe me, our tummy hurts laughing everytime you go on and on about yourself. Why so self-grandizing? What were you thinking!?

I only respond based on your "accusations" and parinig. I am NOT the type who will start some sort of hullabaloo. (You, going on and about me? You, going on parinig spree. You making me the butt of your "jokes". Well.. yeah pa-"innocently")

Moreso, i am not the type to waste my time exerting great efforts in order make myself  look good to other people. Furthermore, I do not make myself look good by making other people look UGLY. I blog because i want to. I do not blog for the purpose of parinig. I do not blog for the purpose of "praising" myself....

sadly, for some reason, with my blogs, you let yourself to be conquered by the green-eyed monster.

 

We CHALLENGE you to recall in the deep recesses of your mind if we EVER said similar foul, blatantly disrespectful, below-the-belt statements. You have said a too many that we don't think it can be equated with whatever we have said, if in case you may recall any.

Apparently you have issues, you are in great denial. We have tried as much as we can to get through you, by infusing some sense of humor and at the same time articulating ourselves well. We tried to express ourselves assertively in non-confrontational manner (because apparently, i am your favorite blog topic. And you stalk my blog to fish and react as negatively as possible). On top it all we are careful that not a single hurtful word was ever said (nothing below the belt, nothing very personal, no insulting words were even directly uttered) despite the continuous parinig. We responded vaguely, we responnded in very generalized way. Hoping we can somehow make the message come across to you ("tablan sana" as henry would assure me). We infused humor, we made the subject as light as it can be.

With all the things that you have done and said, all we can say is that you have no reservations, you are SIMPLY VENGEFUL.

dear, it only made you look more stupid and irrational at that. Go and ask people around you. Go and show them our "correspondence"...

What's with slapping on our faces about the "life-changing issues"? I don't know, karma i guess have hit you. I guess you got a taste of your life-changing experience/s too. I know i shouldn't be mentioning it, we sincerely emphatized when you had your share of that life-changing incident/s as well . I know, we all have our down points in our lives. We are saying this for you to understand that another person's life-changing experince shouldn't be "used against him/her". Because at one point in our lives, each of us encounter them. 

We remember vividly how you even "mocked" us about one of life-changing experiences we have experienced. From your context, you referred to the "life-changing experience" we have encountered  and seemingly implied that we shouldn't "fight back" anymore to lfe's challenges and adversities and that we should remain miserable and face lying down on the ground all the time. Sorry dear, it doesn't mean that we should always be "down".. it doesn't mean that YOU can always step on our toes. (you said that because i was standing up for myself and you never though i will do that, because you know i have been passive all this time!)

We NEVER received an apology from you (what should we expect?) . Despite all that, with all sincerity, we have tried to reach out, we have exerted efforts which we now think you are undeserving of. Maybe on a subconscious/self-conscious level, you feel that you do not deserve patching things up with us with all the nasty things still teeming your mind. 

Let me tell you this, people like you make me a better person. People like you make me strive more. I am not here to brag what i have so far achieved having "no real work." 

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We are convinced that true colors always surface.

You will be "okay" on certain occasions, yet over and over, you you are compelled to say your piece how you typically execute it: foul, condescending, arrogant, vengeful. Seemingly VERY okay to burn the bridge. One step forward of "mending" your shortcomings,  after some time three steps backward with spews of insult uttered against us. You and the green-eyed monster. You being your NATURAL bratilda self all the time. 

You have inflicted a wound wayback and healing actually takes sometime (Things you have done are really hard to forget just like that. But we have tried to leave everything behind us). But what you do, even before the wound can heal, you scrape off the surface and refreshen the wound....

How can you patch anything up when you continuously write spiteful remarks on pics, blogs and comments? (when we have kept our quiet all these months/ or years!). Again and again, the same arrogant, IMMATURE, swollen with pride person without an inch of humility in his/her body. For the longest time, in fact,  I've been looking forward to  genuinely ugly scars rather than fresh wounds....

I know it will seem like bragging but i have to ask you: If you don't think that earning  (i say earning, not grossing, not on peak months at that) ****** is NOTHING, then can you please let us know whatever that definition you are referring to? Even a person cleaning shoes is doing "work", say, even if he's earning php 50 per shoe-shine and gets to shine only 1 pair of shoes a day. You can say whatever you want, I am earning my keep and that's a fact. Ironically, the more people like you try to put us down, the more blessings come pouring down on us. I, myself is amazed with all blessings coming our way.. my own biz in particular..you have no idea whatever blessings i was referring to, it's not even the press/tv features). This is what i call good karma. When a bad vibe is trying to go our way, it gets usually neutralized by GOOD opportunites ;)

I have never regretted "trying to make myself useful" in the family biz and not going workabullshit. Maybe because admittedly, my personality doesn't lean on the mahadera side. If i have my in-laws around in the shop, i think it is just polite to take the backseat. Do you even know why they are here? It started when my son was diagnosed as a SPECIAL child. They are purposely giving me leeway to spend more time with my SPECIAL child. We have been out-of-the-country mostly on business-purposes (medical, doctor consultations, therapies, and never-ending search to help our son.. ). We do not even care at all how often you go out for leisure trips, how you leave work for birthday parties and get-togethers. We are not like you who is mindful of other people's business!). Up to this point apparently you have NO IDEA what we have gone through and still going through each day, and what future awaits our son. So you DO NOT tell us what we should do. So you should not judge us how we should run our lives! As if we are asking for your ASSISTANCE (in any form). As if we are doing you any DAMAGE. Furthermore, we didn't even ask other people for HELP (if that really bothered you how we supposedly forced other people in this set-up.)

 I know you will never believe this, but lots of times my husband and i argued about in the past already, how i wanted to "help"...how  i've been wanting to take the front seats with him but it's just not feasible at the moment and the past years. You cannot have two office accountants taking separate nor same-time shifts with 100% recording accuracy.  Some records gets repeated, some records gets overlooked because of assumption that the other one has done it already. And it is further harder if you are the cashier, doing accounting/ record keeping, preparing cheques, bank notes, checking items for pickup, PR'ing your son's therapist/teacher all at the same time. Consider yourself blessed, you have a personal assistant with you the whole time (and not making work her ass off for you right?), you get to do stuff at your own pace, not being confused with paperworks at all.. and you do the auditing yourself! Multitasking for you is going  online and office paperwork (if at all you go online at work rather than going online at home instead of SUPPOSEDLY multi-tasking and workabullshitting in the office *hahaha*). Mine is officework, cashiering and "henrywork", jethrowork when inlaws are not around. I do not have a personal assistant. AT least in my case, i am an open book.. unlike someone pretending and going on great lengths trying so hard to elucidate an image of being workabullshit and multi-tasker (YEAH RIGHT! ). Again, i was never like you.. i never pretended anything.

 I know, it is very pointless to explain myself to someone with a close mind (and i shouldn't be explaining myself to start with!).

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Let us refreshen you a bit... wayback,  when you found out about our "life-changing" experience, we can never forget what u said "di ko alam kung pano ko tatanggapin yan" when in fact when a total starnger we met at the airport, whom we apologized to with a short post-it note because our son was starting to become kind of restless during the flight, and we were worried he could be causing them some discomfort, we were even given the most touching note how they admire parents like us who lovingly look after our kid, making him behave every possible way we can. How you reacted wasn't honestly the reaction we  were expecting from you.I do not know exactly what we were supposed to hear from you but definitnitely not di ko alam kung pano ko tatanggapin yan.....  what you said has somehow left lasting impression on us. Little did we know that what you have said is genuinely true  

Even before you concocted all these "hullabaloo", I have tried my best to reach-out. Sadly, we even remember  how you turned around and even interpret my efforts and pure intentions to reach out as  feeling close  and me being deadma on certain occasions (sorry, maybe i do not know how to treat a PRIMA DONNA right. Maybe kiss your feet whenever i  see you? or do the best kowtow?) With your statements, it is evident how you have this purely negative vibes on us..

Admittedly and if you have read testimonies from people who genuinely know me, i am shy by nature.  Expectedly, in person i tend to be passive, shy and quiet.. but letting you step on me several times finally taught me how to fight back, to stand up for myself and show you that you cannot push around your weight just like that. If you only knew some "real stories"  (involving you of course! and we don't think you know these real stories) baka mahiya ka sa mga pinaggagawa mo (or sana tablan ka when the times comes you found out about these "real stories"). 

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Sorry if i have to reiterate this, because apparently your actions tell us it's either you do not have an inch of consideration or you are just utterly insensitive (we just hope that you are the latter):

If you have a special child, it is always advised (if the couple can afford it) that one of the parents should look after the child FULL TIME on top of having a yaya around. So if it already seems like i am FULL time with the kids or i stay at home these days during my third trimester lying on the bed the whole day, what do you care? And what do you know about LOW-LYING PLACENTA during pregnancy and 3-4 episodes of blood spotting? do u even have a uterus? (haha, see? i can still joke around!) We didn't even ask people to work their butts off for us (why are you sounding very affected? wow, is that envy we are seeing again?) Why don't you come right up to me or Henry and talk us out of it?  Suggest a better set-up?  maybe you will be doing us a BIG favor then, maybe we need to be enlightened?  Or maybe, what you've been trying you say is like, a plain housewife who stays at home to look after her kids while letting her poor husband or other people "work for them"  has the most demeaning/condescending situation of all time....tsk tsk tsk.

Please.

We do not mind your business. SO leave us alone! 

(again, i know it's useless explaining to someone who is closed-minded. I am neither banking on my son's disability. I am simply stressing how people like you can be inconsiderate, irrational and utterly ruthless).

FYI, i was advised for a bedrest, but i do NOT do that, because i know i can still make myself useful without exerting physical efforts (oh, i collaborate with a chemist.. do you even know that i can make liptints, mineral eyeshadows, powder and blush formulation, lotion, soap, creams already?? Thus, my own line will be undergoing a total overhaul soon as a local mineral makeup shop. FYI  i am the brainchild behind several successful shops which i supply most, if not ALL of the products... apparently you simply have no idea how i have become useful despite being "bedridden"...(well you simply have no idea what i actually do... because i usually do not go bragging about them). .

We know your "dirts" (you have no idea how much we know!). Sorry if you went on GREAT LENGTHS (at the expense of other people) in order to make yourself look good.. but really, you are not a model-person as you are claiming to be. Don't worry we didn't go digging those dirts, we just happened to be presented with them (from other people's statements and some discoveries you weren't even aware of). We neither care about those dirts.. not until you started treating us with some disrespect. As if you are without "sin", a model-person at that.

 And speaking of dirts, i'm sure you know this already...  this is the BIGGEST mess you ever thrown yourself into.    

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"Let the person among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her."  

No matter how you have provoked us in the past, we were careful not to blatantly disrespect and hurt your feelings. We never said anything way below the belt.  Because we NEVER wanted to BURN the bridge. 

BUT

We have learned our lesson...........

Rest assured, we will never stoop down (again) to your level.

Rest assured, what you have said to us years ago and the "subtle-pa-innocent" spiteful remarks you uttered months/years thereafter will be never forgotten. As much as we have tried so hard to mend the broken relationship, to leave everything behind us,  by the way you have been acting, this time, maybe we can now FINALLY say that things will never be the same again. Because YOU decided to make it stay that way. Burn the bridge as you wish.... 

And please, do not deny the fact that you are still (indirectly) seeking husband's help. We know you are not blind to see that, you just refuse to accept the truth. It just strikes him how superficial hypocritical buffon of a person you are to have the gal to ask (someone) for husband's help and at the same time stab her wife, and him in the process, over and over again.

verbatim as per Henry "bakit ganyan yan, ang bait naman parents nya, mga kapatid nya ok naman. (i must agree! i honestly do not have uneasiness with your parents at all! We know they are not like you. Not to mention that you are lucky to have a very good better-half. How can i feel any uneasiness with them when i know deep in my heart that i honestly did you no harm?)

 

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Rest assured, you will never be called ingarata and we will never wish you morbid thoughts (something only hard-core criminals are usually wished by emotional victims)...

Rest assured, we will never wish you to encounter ANY "life-changing" experiences  further.. nothing similar to what we have encountered because maybe, you are right "baka di mo kayanin". 

Rest assured, we will never wish you to have a special child, to be misdiagnosed by one of the best hospitals in the country with a rare disease, for him to get kidnapped,  to have a dad who had untimely death, to have a pregnancy with three to four spotting episodes due to low-lying placenta...  ONLY to understand what we have gone through, in order for you to understand the reason for the "work" and family set up.... How i was making other people work their butts off for me.... (that's very-you being judgmental, closed-minded and "mighty")

But i will assure you that despite all that, in the event *knock on wood* that any life-changing incident/s will happen to you or any of your loved-ones...  you will have people around you (that's us!) who will genuinely empathize, understand your situation and will never turn around and say any "vengeful" words nor spew out negative words.

Rest assured, this will be our LAST message/blog for you.

We are never stooping down again to your level.

 

 

 

 

You are a hopeless case.

 

 

 

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But the narcissists would say, 'It's totally the other person's fault.' They're completely willing to step on someone."

Keith Campbell quotes

 

Henry and I lately have become Dyosa super avid watchers (He likes imitating Sam's pilipit na tagalog "mehel kita joe-sephine). But mind you, he knows the twists and turns of the story! 

Anyways, without fail, we spend quality time each night with the two bubwits. We babysit them by letting them watch youtube stuff. (Cheenee can operate Henry's laptop this early on already!)

Below are a few of the kiddos walang kamatayang youtube vids. They watch it religiously at night. Every. single. night.

If you happen to surf on Henry's youtube account, you will see that his marked faves are either guns or children's vids. hehehe. How bout my youtube? I recently resurrected visiting youtube to see whatever there is to see..  the ins in makeup style,  personal care stuff, some DIYs and what-nots..

 

I'm leaving you with super cute vids which adults alike can  enjoy watching